Virginity - A Question On Girls’ Morality - Youth Blog of India

“Are you pure?” asked the guy who came to see Sonali for marriage. “Pure????” Sonali couldn’t get his question. “Pure as in untouched?” he clarified. Sonali now understood what he wanted to ask. “What are you looking for a girl to marry or ghee?” she replied agitated by such a question. He was shocked at such a reply, but before he could say anything. Sonali continued, “Well you can say if there was an exam about ‘purity’ I wouldn’t top it!” His family left..

Next day he rang up Sonali’s dad and told him that he cannot marry Sonali as she is a girl with low morals. Bang on! Welcome to the progressive India where

we claim to be modern people but still make

Virginity a base to check a girl’s morals or her capability to

become a good wife. Today when we claim that women have

an equal status in the society with that of men, we still are

under the orthodox views of using a white bed sheet on the

first night of marriage just to check the bride’s virginity!!!

The guy may himself have slept with number of girls but he

wants a “pure”, “untouched” girl as a wife. 

Why Answer- just to satisfy his male ego that the girl he is going

to spend his life with has been and will be only his“possession”. If today a girl loses her virginity with

a guy she loves truly but the guy turn s out to be a cheat

then she is tagged as a “slut”, “characterless girl” ; MIND

YOU these being the most decent words I can pen down ,else

there are a million more worse words in our mother

tongue vocabulary. I ask what is the mistake of the girl?

She loved a guy? She slept with someone she thought

she would marry? Or, she now has lost her purity which

would satisfy her to-be husband’s male ego and make

him believe that she is fit to be his wife! And again no

answers I could get! I completely support the fact that we

Indians should not give up on our morals and accept

everything that westernisation gives us but I wonder how can

a biological wall in the girl’s body by breaking decide

the level of her morals? I mean Sonali could have been

a great wife, she was marrying the guy her parents

chose, maybe she had a bad past… But all that was seen

was that she wasn’t pure! L And I am forced to wonder that

what would happen to those rape victims? Who would

marry those girls? Moreover a girl from a sports

background, has always been told by those orthodox distant

relatives to Quit it, why? because playing may result in

breakage of the “moral wall”!! “ “Urggghhh ”, that’s what I have

always thought after hearing that!!

Yes, I am also a girl, an Indian

girl, who values her morals, for whom her “izzat” is

priceless, who has always dreamt of her

“raajkumar”

coming on a white horse to marry her, and who has

always planned her wedding dress! But I am also a

girl who belongs to the globalised world, interacts with

the opposite sex, loves, has break ups, overcomes them

and smiles again and no one has a right to tag me any

thing for that reason! I just request you that next time

you go looking for a girl for marriage, search for a true

heart and not something like “pure ghee”, because she ‘s

gonna be your life partner and not your meal to satisfy your

hunger of ego. When you look at a beautiful girl coming

dressed in a red lehanga leaving her world behind, to become

a part of your world, accept her, make her life a bed of

roses rather than testing her loyalty by making her lay

down on a bed with white bed sheet because true love will

make your marriage successful, her “purity” won’t...

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